Oh my four-year-old boy

Dear my four-year-old boy, why don't you just listen to me, at least once a day?  It is okay you don't agree with my suggestion if you have a good reason, but at least you explain to me and convince me.  Now you always show me a blank face and what I can do is just pulling my hair.  Am I lack of patience?  Or had you reached the rebellious adolescence stage that I am the only one who didn't notice....